Thanks to homeschooling, “Now, I love being a mom.”

This blog post seems to have been very widely read. Even though this family’s approach may not suit yours (including their approach to discipline), or the one you would take if you homeschooled, I like the post because it’s honest and has some good reasons for why to try homeschooling. I like the author, Kathleen Berchelmann’s point 6 the best, “I like parenting more, by far.  As a mom of school-aged kids, I felt like my role as parent had been diminished to mini-van driver, schedule-keeper, cook and disciplinarian.. Every day I’d unpack a pile of crinkled notice papers from three backpacks and hope that I didn’t miss the next permission slip.  I was not born, raised and educated to spend my days like this.  Now, I love being a mom.” 

Sooo many  parents I meet say they couldn’t possible homeschool and how brave I am. It’s very frustrating because homeschooling, especially when you don’t take a ‘school at home’ approach, is entirely different from the way life is when kids go to school. Parents assume all the bad bits about kids going to school will be amplified, the arguments and the stress, whilst the good bits, the quiet time, will go away. Well, quite a bit of the uninterrupted time does go away, especially if you don’t have any support eg from a spouse BUT it’s more than made-up by the quality time spent with your kids – as long as you enjoy your kids’ company when times are good. Your kids will be different kinds of kids when you homeschool. They will be much more like the kids you see on holiday – cuddly, relaxed, chatty and fun. As Kathleen says in points 7 and 8, “Our family spends our best hours of each day together.  We were giving away our kids during their best hours, when they were rested and happy, and getting them back when they were tired, grumpy and hungry.  I dreaded each evening, when the fighting and screaming never seemed to end, and my job was to push them through homework, extracurriculars and music practice.  Now, our kids have happy time together each day.” and “We yell at our kids less.”  

Homeschooling is entirely different from doing homework with schooled kids. ENTIRELY! I wish this huge misconception could be cleared up. It might help bring many wannabe homeschoolers into the fold, for the kids and for themselves to BOTH lead happier and more fulfilling lives – certainly lives with more freedom and joy.


About homeschoolingpenny

Hi and welcome! My name is Penny and I used to live in Bahrain but In November 2012 moved to Dubai and now we live in Granada, Spain! If you want to contact me my email is I recommend you start my blog on 'Day 1' but please enjoy whatever you dip into. 23 February 2012 marked the first day of no more school FOREVER for my two kids. Edward, who is nearly 10 had attended a variety of schools since he was very little. Petra, who is now 6, has never gone to school. On this date we decided Edward was never going back to school and Petra never would go to school. We hope to successfully homeschool from this day forward, although we would consider an alternative school as an option- if there was some amazing Sudbury or other really alternative school. Actually, I prefer the term 'home learning' than 'homeschool' because I don't like to think of school coming into our home. In fact, I hope to go further and guide/learn alongside, rather than teach, my kids using the 'unschooling' philosophy to instill a lifelong love of learning in them. We lived in the Middle East and now Spain all of which are very challenging places to home educate. This is an exciting journey that I used to blog about regularly, at first it was on an almost daily basis. Please join me on our travels and I hope we might be able to help each other out along the way. I certainly hope I can be a source of support and comfort and, in time, knowledge to all potential/presently participating homeschoolers/home educators/unschoolers. Good luck to us all! If you want to read about why I started home educating, why I pulled my son out of a 'very good' private school mid-term, how I felt at the very start and how my philosophy has evolved, please start from 'Day 1' of the blog. Please do post comments at the end of any days that you read. Your opinion is valuable and it's great to start up debate amongst other people commenting too, however old the post. Thank you for visiting homeschoolingmiddleeast.
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