I thought this was a short and sweet thought-provoking article. Are you going to share any of these regrets? Am I? I really don’t think so, in large part thanks to homeschooling. The author’s number 1 cited regret for many parents is ‘Spending too little time with your children’. I nearly skipped over that one, as a 24/7 homeschooling Mum, but then I stopped for a moment and thought – Is it possible to regret NOT spending more time doing something OTHER than 24/7 parenting?! Actually, I don’t think so and I have examined my consciousness about this. I am fulfilled spending just about every waking minute with my children (and a few sleeping ones too!)
I was slightly worried though about ‘Crumit’s comment underneath the article, “I love my parents for not hovering, and for giving me freedom. They had their own lives and took vacations by themselves and never acted as if I was the center of their universe. It made me feel independent and made adulthood look fun.” As everyone who knows me knows, and that includes my regular blog readers, my kids are, without a shadow of a doubt, the centre of my universe. Fortunately, it’s the same for my husband. And the kids know it. In fact, our little family unit is the centre of our universe. I think this is OK, despite Crumit’s comment, and I’m glad that ‘Crumit’ feeling she wasn’t the centre of her parent’s universe didn’t make her feel bad, possibly to the point of ruining her life. But I do worry that my husband and I don’t make adulthood look sufficiently fun for our kids. My son always says he never wants to stop being a child, that being an adult looks so boring. His father’s all too frequent 90 hour work weeks don’t, surprisingly, attract him at all and I guess mothering looks too much like hard work, despite how much I enjoy it. I think I must do better at showing it!
However, my husband and I are endeavouring to somehow radically change our life in the next couple of years in a way that would make, we hope, adulthood look a lot more fun, a lot more meaningful and satisfying, so hopefully I can stop worrying about Crumit’s comment but it’s a good thing for someone like me to consider – make adulthood look fun whilst allowing the children to know both they and their childhood are cherished. Watch this space… 😉