I read an interesting post this evening. It was the first time in ages I’ve had time to read anyone else’s blog unfortunately. I like to read other blogs as much as possible, especially homeschooling blogs, as often as possible. I enjoy it and I think it makes me a better blogger and this includes commenting on other blogs. The quality of what I read keeps me on my toes! There are some fantastic homeschooling blogs out there! And I shouldn’t think I’ve found even a tiny percent of them because I’m only looking at ‘WordPress’ at the moment. There’s such rich food for thought there I haven’t needed to go elsewhere yet, although I am always open to being told about other blogs and am very happy to follow them too.
The post I read this evening is about ‘old chestnut’ of an issue – the debate about grading in schools. However, I thought it was very succinctly put by ‘Fish Tank Mom’ and there’s a VERY funny cartoon on this post of hers, “I have friends and family that are so proud of their children in school and the success and grades they have achieved. I am happy for them that they are happy with the feedback from school that little Jonny is so bright and achieving at his level but it makes me wonder. Is he better than or is he a better fit than little Billy next door with a C average? (My emphasis) If Billy is bright and amazing with gifts beyond memorizing facts and passing tests will he know his brilliance after those 12 some years in a system that calls him an average student? Will he get fed up and give up – resort to being average in life? Will he drop out and then consider himself a “drop out”? Or will he know his brilliance? Will he have parents that look beyond the grades and the norm and notice his gifts? If they do this for him will they be loud enough to snuff out the voices that said he was average or rather a failure? Who is really succeeding in this? Who is really failing? Why are our children so deeply immersed in this system that has such a narrow view on what it means to live a good life?”
I have an acquaintance on Facebook, who is the mother of a little girl who used to be in Edward’s class at his ‘old-old’ bilingual school. She recently posted a picture of her 6 or 7 year old daughter’s report card and crowed and I mean, crowed, about the fact that her daughter got all ‘A’s. This post was followed by reams of comments from her friends lauding her parenting skills, “What a wonderful parent you are. You must be very proud.” I seriously don’t remember any comments about how hard her daughter must have worked to get these ‘A’s, let alone any more reflective comments like, “I hope she had a lot of fun this year too”, or “I hope you’re allowing her to be a little girl too and enjoy all the other things this wonderful life has to offer” or “What on earth is a school doing grading a 6/7 year old and what on earth are you doing caring so much about it?” And she does care about it. A previous post had said how proud she was that her daughter could write so much and so clearly. This same mother also regularly posts about all the homework and projects she’s doing with her daughter. It doesn’t sound like they have much time for fun or friends.
I’m not having a particular dig at this mother because probably 99% of the other mothers feel the same. Why do people see education as a race? Why do people think doing things early results in future success? What does writing volumes and legibly at 6/7 years old have to do with success as an adult, any way you define success? Do people not think about what those kids have missed out on by being made to write volumes and legibly at such a young age? Do they not worry about how much they may be putting kids off writing? Do they not think about the fact that perhaps it would be more important to instil a love of learning in kids at this age so that they will want to teach themselves a whole lot of things? That perhaps if they learn to love learning they will want to read, write and do maths, just for the joy of it, not to try and get ‘A’s to please their parents? What about all the more interesting things the kids could be learning instead of doing writing (and reading and maths) drills? Why do people think it’s OK to grade kids? Why do otherwise perfectly reasonable people think that if their kids are complying successfully with somebody else’s idea of what it is to be well-educated that this is the definition of success? Why are people so thoughtless about their kids’ education? Why are they so brainwashed to buy into ‘the system’?
‘Fish Tank Mum’ says, “My children are not graded because I home school them and I have the choice to turn my back on this tradition. They are stars for being alive and I know that the success they will have in this life will be motivated by joy and genuine interest. They just are not average, not excellent, not A, B, C, or D but just people with interests, passions and a multitude of different aptitudes. Will they be limited by this not knowing how they measure up? Some think so indeed. Will they never work hard if not for the motivation of a carrot – in this case a high mark? Some think not. I am not afraid for them and I know they have a gift far beyond anything tangible. They have the gift of confidence to forge their own path – create their own life and a life of passion for what interests them. They have no sense of lack for not being what they are not – they only have to be good at what they are good at. What would that have been like for you?”
I absolutely love this. As I said, I think ‘Fish Tank Mum’ hits the nail on the head, “They have no sense of lack for not being what they are not – they only have to be good at what they are good at.” What would that have been like for me? Big sigh. If only. But it WILL be like that for my kids and I so dearly hope it can be like that for your kids too.
As the wonderful John Holt says, “No human right, except the right to life itself, is more fundamental than this. A person’s freedom of learning is part of his freedom of thought, even more basic than his freedom of speech. If we take from someone his right to decide what he will be curious about, we destroy his freedom of thought. We say, in effect, you must think not about what interests and concerns you, but about what interests and concerns us.” Such as having neat and voluminous handwriting. Including those things we think deserve an ‘A’ and not a ‘D’. Is this right? Is this OK?
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