Leadership: ALL homeschoolers are Leaders and will likely teach their kids to be leaders too. Month 5 of Learning at Home

I’m reading two homeschooling books at the moment. One is certainly a seminal work, the other might be too, if it stands the test of time. The seminal work, presently beside my bed, is John Holt’s ‘Teach Your Own’ which is the second Holt book I’ve read, the other was ‘How Children Learn’. It’s keeping me up until midnight when I really should be asleep! It’s a great read. The book I’m reading concurrently with Holt’s is one I mentioned recently, ‘Leadership Education’ by the DeMilles about a ‘Thomas Jefferson Education’ (which I’d love to hear feedback about from other readers). It’s very interesting but not written to be quite such an easy read. It’s a bit more like a textbook.

It’s a bit confusing reading two homeschooling books at the same time because when you’re thinking about them at other times of the day you really have to concentrate to remember which thought to attribute to which writer! I was recently struck by how they both define and discuss ‘leadership’. Holt writes a chapter about homeschooling/unschooling and social change. Holt has a fun term for the kind of social change he feels homeschooling is bringing about; ‘nickel-and-dime’ change. He feels that homeschoolers may be presently few in number but will eventually have significant influence on society, “…important and lasting social change always comes slowly, and only when  people change their lives, not just their political beliefs or parties or forms of government. Real social change is a process that takes place over time, usually quite a long time. At any given moment in history, 99 percent of society may think and act one way on a certain matter, and only 1 percent think and act very differently. In time, that 1 percent may become 2 percent, then 5 percent, then 10, 20, 30 percent, until finally it becomes the dominant majority, and social change has taken place. When did this social change take place? When did it begin? There is no clear answer, except perhaps that any given social change begins the first time any one person thinks of it.”

I have always thought of myself as a mould-breaker (and suffered the consequences of doing so) and now I feel like myself and other homeschoolers, perhaps especially those who aren’t the ‘school-at-home’ brigade, unschoolers, are iconoclasts. Love that word! From Wikipedia, “…”iconoclasts”, a term that has come to be applied figuratively to any person who challenges established dogma or conventions.”  This is especially the case if you see homeschooling as a political statement. Again from Holt’s ‘Teach Your Own’, “But are these kind of small-scale personal changes political, that is, do they or could they help to bring about change in society as a whole? It depends. Are the things these people are doing things that many others, not rich nor powerful nor otherwise unusual, COULD do if they wanted, without undue risk or sacrifice? And are these people, as they change their lives, telling others about what they are doing and how they might also do it? Private action, however radical and satisfying, only becomes political when it is made known. In other words, private or small-group actions are political if they have the power to MULTIPLY.”

Those homeschoolers who are open to talking about how we’re educating our children, even if we risk bringing opprobrium upon ourselves, those homeschoolers who blog about it, can certainly call ourselves iconoclasts. You can’t challenge ‘established dogma and convention’, you can’t influence society, help others to change (and Holt says this primarily means helping others who want to, rather than trying to influence the entrenched), without being political. I have always been very comfortable with being political, even if this causes ructions, so Holt’s writing resonated with me and a lot of other homeschoolers I think.

But even if you aren’t an inconoclast, or political, because you aren’t broadcasting your homeschooling decision, you are a leader by Holt’s definition, especially if you can live your homeschooling decision without constantly second guessing it (even if you second guess the style of homeschooling you use or how it works in practice). Anyone, even those with modest backgrounds and educations, are leaders as Holt defines leadership because, “Leaders are not what many people think – people with huge crowds following them. Leaders are people who go their own way without caring, or even looking to see whether ANYONE is following them. “Leadership qualities” are not the qualities that enable people to attract followers, but those that enable them to do without them. They include, at the very least, courage, endurance, patience, humor, flexibility, resourcefulness, determination, a keen sense of reality, and the ability to keep a cool and clear head even when things are going badly. This is the opposite of “charisma” that we hear so much about. Charismatic leaders make us think, “Oh, if only I could do that, be like that.” True leaders make us think, “If they can do that, then by golly I can too.” They do not make people into followers, but into new leaders. The homeschooling movement is full of such people, “ordinary” people doing things that they never would have thought they could do…This is why it may be a little misleading to speak of the homeschooling “movement”. Most people think of a movement as something like an army, a few generals and a great many buck privates. In the movement for homeschooling, everyone is a general.”

I love the way that John Holt sees homeschooling as so democratic. What could be better than being part of something that helps see anyone as being a potential general? When we talk about leadership, it’s always with a view to being number 1. Edward and I have just been reading about Julius Caesar in Susan Wise Bauer’s, ‘The Story of the World’. He bullied his way to being King, because being less than number one was not enough, and he alienated his colleagues and friends to such an extent they murdered him. This is not the kind of leadership I want my kids to learn! So, what kind of leadership does DeMilles’ leadership education model advocate? I was relieved to read on p2 that although the DeMilles say greatness is an indispensable trait of leadership, which Julius Caesar wouldn’t disagree with, it’s not the first indispensable trait. They say that the first indispensable trait of leadership is goodness, which Julius wouldn’t have bothered with at all (unless it was being good in terms of treating his troops well, feeding and paying them well, but this was for a Machiavellian reason; as a way to gain loyalty in order to seize power, not out of the kindness of his unkind heart!)

The DeMilles put a lot of emphasis on “moral development” as well as intellectual learning and I think this is great. The leaders they want us to cultivate have “…vision, capacity, tenacity and involvement (that) inspire and motivate others to worthwhile purposes that elevate society”. I don’t think warmongering or indeed weapon development or even work in financial systems that persuaded people to take out subprime mortgages (see here for an amusing discussion about the immorality of this) or even just working in a ‘conveyor belt of life’ mindless kind of job qualifies as inspiring or motivating others “to worthwhile purposes that elevate society” so I think my kids are safe if I adopt the DeMille homeschooling model! I think the DeMilles’ version of leadership is not so dissimilar to Holt’s. Again, it’s very democratic in that it considers that “every person is a genius – literally. Each and every person, not merely a pre-determined upper echelon, was born with the natural talents, passions, desires, interests and abilities to fully accomplish his or her mission” although I do think charisma comes into the DeMilles’s definition of leadership more than in Holt’s.

All homeschoolers, whatever style we adopt, are leaders and want our children to be too, in the sense I’ve discussed. We have decided that success in life isn’t about fitting into big institutions, pleasing the “expert-rulers who run them” and we don’t see the need to justify or seek permission to be different. We have decided that despite the best efforts of our own education and society generally, we will not feel inadequate; we believe we can take on possibly one of the greatest challenges of our lives, educating our own children. We do not need to depend on ‘experts’ to do this i.e. teachers. And what’s amazing, when you feel empowered in this area of your life, you feel so much less dependent on ‘experts’ for many other areas, hence the numbers of homeschoolers who use alternative medicine or grow your own food or are self-employed.

An amusing last word… the amount of times, during Edward’s introduction to ancient history, that he’s made connections between the new and often difficult concepts he’s being introduced to and ‘Star Wars’ and ‘Harry Potter’ is amazing. But they are valid connections. For instance, he correctly saw that the Senators of Ancient Rome were like the Senators in ‘Star Wars’. When I googled ‘Star Wars senators’ to learn a bit more about them (since I don’t concentrate quite as closely as Edward does when ‘Star Wars’ is playing) I found this website with the great name ‘Wookieepedia, The Star Wars Wiki’. Their entry about Star Wars Senators starts with a quote by Obi Wan Kenobi, “It’s been my experience that Senators are only focused on pleasing those who fund their campaigns and they are more than willing to forget the niceties of democracy to get those funds.” If Edward is picking up this kind of subtlety from ‘Star Wars’ we can all stop worrying about our children ‘wasting time’ in front of such popular kids entertainment, considering some of it operates on so many levels – and I can feel comfortable that as a result of his viewing, Edward’s going to be a great democratic leader, in the best senses of the word, one day!

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About homeschoolingpenny

Hi and welcome! My name is Penny and I used to live in Bahrain but In November 2012 moved to Dubai and now we live in Granada, Spain! If you want to contact me my email is pjmontford@hotmail.com. I recommend you start my blog on 'Day 1' but please enjoy whatever you dip into. 23 February 2012 marked the first day of no more school FOREVER for my two kids. Edward, who is nearly 10 had attended a variety of schools since he was very little. Petra, who is now 6, has never gone to school. On this date we decided Edward was never going back to school and Petra never would go to school. We hope to successfully homeschool from this day forward, although we would consider an alternative school as an option- if there was some amazing Sudbury or other really alternative school. Actually, I prefer the term 'home learning' than 'homeschool' because I don't like to think of school coming into our home. In fact, I hope to go further and guide/learn alongside, rather than teach, my kids using the 'unschooling' philosophy to instill a lifelong love of learning in them. We lived in the Middle East and now Spain all of which are very challenging places to home educate. This is an exciting journey that I used to blog about regularly, at first it was on an almost daily basis. Please join me on our travels and I hope we might be able to help each other out along the way. I certainly hope I can be a source of support and comfort and, in time, knowledge to all potential/presently participating homeschoolers/home educators/unschoolers. Good luck to us all! If you want to read about why I started home educating, why I pulled my son out of a 'very good' private school mid-term, how I felt at the very start and how my philosophy has evolved, please start from 'Day 1' of the blog. Please do post comments at the end of any days that you read. Your opinion is valuable and it's great to start up debate amongst other people commenting too, however old the post. Thank you for visiting homeschoolingmiddleeast.
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4 Responses to Leadership: ALL homeschoolers are Leaders and will likely teach their kids to be leaders too. Month 5 of Learning at Home

  1. “…we can all stop worrying about our children ‘wasting time’ in front of such popular kids entertainment, considering some of it operates on so many levels – and I can feel comfortable that as a result of his viewing, Edward’s going to be a great democratic leader, in the best senses of the word, one day!”

    Maybe you can stop worrying; I’m going to continue biting my nails 🙂

    The more I read and am exposed to the dogma of public schools I wonder how many kids might actually make this connection. K-12 educators are so focused on the “bubbleology” of standardized testing mandated at state and/or federal levels, it is my opinion some of these connections are stunted. Not all schools in the US are created equal, though, and some magnet schools which allow greater freedom are most likely generating creative students, “destroy the box” -type thinkers 🙂

    • You are a great reality-check for me! So much of what I read talks about how amazing people/children are, how capable etc. etc. The experiences you share about your students’ horrible standards of literacy and the lack of concern about this, the lack of motivation too, make sure I am not too idealistic! Although of course, one hopes it’s the fault of ‘the system’, not just the educational system but parenting too, and that had these same kids been given a different environment, they could have all achieved great things. If only ‘destroy the box’ type thinking was on a standardized test somewhere 😉

  2. mommasylvia says:

    Hey There! I know what you mean about reading more than one book at a time! I often can’t choose which new book I want to read first, so I begin both at the same time and stay up way too late reading them! Teach Your Own was the first book I read when first contemplating if homeschooling was for us. It was quite a while ago, so thanks for the refresher! And really when you think about it, the nickle and dime change theory is so right on! Back in 1984, there were not nearly the number of homeschoolers that their are today. My neighbors used to tell my kids that they were going to go to jail! Can you imagine telling that to a 5 and 7 yr old?! Now in the US, it is a well-known and acceptable option!

    • Anonymous says:

      Oh gosh, Sylvia. How awful! Really pleased even a super-seasoned homeschooler like you got something out of a post about a wonderful old Holt book 🙂 Best wishes, Penny

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