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In my last post https://homeschoolingmiddleeast.wordpress.com/2012/03/29/week-6-day-36-of-homeschooling-in-the-middle-east-books-and-building/, I talked about feeling a bit lacking in time for myself and then a couple of hours later, I read this and thought it was absolutely charming, “Me time, by Cowabunga. The wonderful unschooling mom Schuyler Waynforth wrote this on an online unschooling discussion group to a mom who felt she needed more “me” time: “Sit still with them. And when they are still, sit still with yourself. Don’t use so many moments of the day to do anything. Find ways to eat more, to get more calories in, with two little ones I found I was letting myself get hungry and tired too often. Look for ways to connect with them. There are biological ways. Smelling their heads is amazingly connective. At 11 and 14 it still works for me, but when they still had that new baby smell, that mussy, sweaty, sleepy, milky head smell, it switched massive switches for me. Look at them. Watch them talk or move or bounce or roll or whatever it is they are doing and marvel at the fact that they are.
Sometimes it’s hard, just staying still, just watching, just being with babies. But it won’t be long–although if you are with them all that time, you get it to be longer than parents who don’t make those choices, or have the ability to make those choices–until 9 months is a year and 3 year is 4. Time passes, they grow and they change and they move on in their interests and abilities. And you get lots more time to yourself.
In the hard moments, in the moments when you feel like you’ve been around babies and toddlers for too long, stop thinking that. Literally, come up with something else to think about. Think about a bird that flew by the window, or the way the light plays in your child’s hair, or that noise that you can hear, where it could it be coming from? anything. Think about anything but frustration and get up and go make yourself a smoothie or maybe find a DVD to watch or do a mad dash around the house, upstairs, downstairs, in the bathroom and all the rooms with your giggling three year old along and your 9 month old in your arms and when you are done fall on the couch or the bed and feel better. Watch that moment pass into a different moment.” and then this was posted in reply, by Amanda “Thank you! I needed that. I know this constant need for my attention is important, that is part of the reason I keep them home, so they can get what they need emotionally. I know all too soon they will be going off to college or getting jobs, moving out. I will put your suggestions into practice. :)”
I concur and will be submitting my own thanks to Cowabunga! One of the big reasons for home educating my kids is that I so much love them being around all the time. For our family, it feels right. We love and learn together. I never felt completely right when Edward was at school, I knew the best place for him was home, of course not helped by the fact he was never happy at school. I was so lucky that I never had to suffer from Petra going away. We are different kinds of people. Most people don’t understand that. But I’m OK with that. I’m going to go and smell my kids’ hair now 😉